7 reasons why you're delaying working with a coach

7 reasons why you're delaying working with a coach

So when is the right time? When your kids are at school and you only get 6 hours of childcare? When they're teenagers and need you for emotional and spiritual support? When they've left home and you've lost momentum and market focus?

#blogadaymay: Day 11: TOUCH

Well, I've got so much to say on this (I think I have so much to say on everything, it's probably why people say I'm "chatty" (read gobby)), but I’m being called to inadvertently touch a bottom (the 3 year old can’t always work it out when she's on the loo...)

But TOUCH. It’s SO IMPORTANT and links so much to loneliness. Here are my top 5 points:

1. Cuddle your kids, kiss them, stroke their soft arms and cheeks. Do this as much as you can before they turn all angsty. Sofa snuggling = heaven.

2. Touch your boobs - check out www.coppafeel.org Let’s make sure we’re breast aware - there's so much breast cancer in my family that I’m always at it.

3. How to stop your husband feeling like your good mate from Halls in Uni that you somehow have kids with?! A snog while they’re watching Peppa. A cheeky bottom squeeze by the fridge. Holding hands whenever you can. Lying naked in bed even if it’s just a prelude to sleep. 

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4. Give great big hugs to those you love. Feel their breath slow and deepen (but bear in mind, there are a few people who don’t like being hugged. Those people will freeze...)

5. Get touched. Reflexology, massage, Indian Head Massage, osteopathy. Yes it costs money. But so does buying a coffee every other day or the subscription to Netflix. Your body is so precious. Love it.

What are your thoughts on touch? For me it’s such an act of #selfcare hence including this amazing pic from www.fullcupthirstyspirit.com

#blogadaymay: Day 2: BIRTHDAYS

#blogadaymay: Day 2: BIRTHDAYS

You know some people aren’t that fussed about birthdays?

It’s just a number, another day, I’ve not done anything, why make a fuss?!”

Yeah, I’m pretty much the opposite of that.

#blogadaymay: Day 1: ME

Wow, start with an easy topic for #blogadaymay I thought. Ask people to talk about themselves. That will be quick and easy. What can I write about myself I thought? I quickly wrote my standard blurb:

Woman in her 30s, two kids, wife, business owner, teacher, singer, blogger, bish bashl bosh DONE.

Of course it wasn’t that easy.

These, in no particular order, are some of the questions that sprang to mind as I wrote the word ME:

  • Is this the me I imagined I’d be?
  • When do I feel the most ME?do I miss my old pre-kids body?
  • Am I still too much of a chameleon? Do I adapt me to suit different situations?
  • is thinking about ME just too me me me!
  • Am I proud of me?
  • What would my husband/ my best friend/ my mum / my kids say was “me”, and does that actually matter?!

It was at that point I decided that if I was going to get this philosophical about every single blog post that the #blogadaymay challenge was going to get a bit much, so I’ve decided to adopt an @clemmietelford approach to this, so here are 32 things about me, on the eve of my 33rd birthday:

  1. I know every episode of Friends from memory - and remember getting the whole dvd collection, finding the cut scenes and shrieking “this was ALL CUT!!!” every time there was previously unseen footage (this was not at all annoying)
  2. My voice is in many a film soundtrack, often singing “ooooh, ahhh” or “air”
  3. I used to have claustrophobia, which I now realise is more a general anxiety about being unable to escape or being trapped – planes are not my friend at the moment
  4. I am suddenly quite afraid of death, and am trying to work out why
  5. I am an optimist – often naïve, and happy to be so
  6. I have always been a bit greedy – when I was younger I would wait until I had nearly fiished my pack of smarties, and then suggest to my sister that we “share”
  7. I love a canal boat holiday
  8. One Christmas day, along with mysister, husband (then boyfriend) and a friend from school, I appeared on a loop on QVC singing Christmas Carols – I still don’t really understand why
  9. I LOVE language and am fantastically verbose
  10. I tend to turn anything into a song – I enjoy a healthy dose of popropriation (I believe the term was first coined by Adam Buxton and Joe Cornish on their fantastic BBC6 Music podcast)
  11. I am hysterically proud of my podcast – that I just did it, that it works and that I have some amazing people lined up to come and chat to me
  12. I would like to write a book
  13. I would like to study for an MA
  14. I am very good at starting a craft project…and very bad at finishing one
  15. I love a good sit down
  16. I have perfect pitch – so I can hear in my head all the different pitches that exist and sing them to you, without needing a piano etc to find them – I like to believe this is a super power
  17. I have synaesthesia – when I hear certain keys I see certain colours – F major is purple, E major is yellow etc.
  18. Despite being confident, I have always felt that one day I will be “found out” – I have had to work to banish imposter syndrome
  19. I have quite comically small hands, but am also hyperflexible, so can stretch a tenth on the piano (useful as a music teacher)
  20. I am without grace, and with clumsiness
  21. I love a planning meeting, and now so do my kids. “Mummy, can we talk about THE DAYS” is an oft-said expression in my household
  22. Going for a stomp and then a cream tea at a National Trust place or RHS Wisley with my kids, sister and boyfriend, husband, parents and grandparents makes me quite giddily joyful
  23. I often have to remind myself that I am a good mum – the affirmation “I am doing my best and that is enough” is said with alarming frequency
  24. I am incredibly nosey – I am fascinated by other people’s stories and love nothing better than listening to them
  25. I used to think that I hated change…but it turns out I’m quite happy to flip something on its head and try something new
  26. I thought I was level-headed…but I can be enormously impulsive (or should that be instinctive?)
  27. At school (in Physics) we had to do an experiment to test the level of pressure on our feet. Such were the weight of my breasts on my (then) size 4 feet that the teacher remarked I had to cope with “abnormal pressure”. I often quote this to my husband when I am whinging about having tired legs.
  28. I am proud to be a feminist. I am proud to be a girly girl. I am proud to be happily often a little bit grubby from playing outside with the kids. I am proud to be complex.
  29. I live by “everything will alright in the end…and if it’s not alright, it’s not the end.” Thank you to Mark Kermode and Simon Mayo for that.
  30. I am an extremely extroverted introvert – I love making friends and I love being with people – but I also love the gentle solitude of a Bargain Hunt, the sofa and a cuppa
  31. Sometimes I wish I could slow down and not always be excited about the NEXT THING – but that’s who I am, and that’s ok
  32. I like me.
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