What happens when you become a Mum: Rachel (Musings of a London Mum)

I first discovered Rachel via some amazing photos she'd taken. Once I started following her on Instagram I adored her colourful, happy squares, her honesty and her humour. It's been brilliant getting to know her and I was so pleased when she said she'd be happy to share her feelings about the monumental change that is becoming a mum. Follow her on Instagram here and check out her fabulous photography here.


The feeling of extreme tiredness, being utterly overwhelmed and not really having a clue what I was doing with this teenie tiny human, who arrived in November 2016, was fairly expected.

Naively, I didn’t expect the huge dent in my confidence following my pregnancy, birth and fourth trimester. Losing sight of who I was as a person and a significant loss in confidence came as a massive shock, and I really found it tough. This tremendously effected my wellbeing and was something that I think is important for new mothers to be aware of. 

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I’ve always been outgoing and fairly self-assured, but after having Jenson my confidence vanished. Puff. Gone.  I really felt like I didn’t know who I was anymore and was having a serious identity crisis. Was I a mum? A woman? A wife? A friend? How was a possibly going to be all things to all people as well as provide for the new tiny human?

It felt like forever since I’d put some glad rags on that I felt good in, that empowered me and infused confidence back into my soul. 

Fashion and clothes have always been important to me. Don’t get me wrong - I’m no style icon - but I’ve always felt like dressing up is a massive part of who I am. Following my birth via emergency c- section I felt at a loss as to what to wear and how to look. What do mums wear? Twin set and pearls? Breastfeeding Bretons? PJs?

I found a massive amount of inspiration and empowerment from social media, and in particular Instagram. Being able to follow inspirational woman such as @dresslikeamum, @motherofdaughters and @stylemesunday (usually whilst tiny human was attached to the boobie at 4am) was so uplifting! Seeing that as a new mother you can be every bit as ‘cool’ (ha!) as you were pre- tiny human was a breath of fresh air.

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It was getting back to wearing clothes I love and my bright lipsticks that really made me feel so much better. Yes, I may only going to a baby sensory class, but why can’t I wear my swishy silver shimmery skirt? I hugely appreciate this may seem vain and trivial when many woman experience severe physical and mentally distress postnatally, but this is a little thing that made a big difference to me.

In essence, remember who you were pre-baby and try and find a way to incorporate that back into your day to day life. For me it was clothes and red lipstick, for others it maybe yoga, singing or drawing!

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You’re even more incredible then you were before giving birth, you grew a tiny human and delivered it safely into the world. That gives you superhero status! Right?